Disclaimer: I want to apologize if I offend anyone, especially my friends who have a little more insight into what I discuss here on the world wide web. I value their opinions and don't want grudges or ill-will to be harbored by anyone (yes, against me especially). The way I see it is, this is my opinion; please don't bag on me for believing in what I say, and I am not trying to start sh*t or anything like that. Like I stated before, this is me "shooting from the hip."
So, I found myself at "McLaren's" last night (HIMYM reference; code name for the Irish Pub I was getting inebriated at) with a bunch of good friends with the sole goal of well, getting inebriated. After a Snakebite and Smithwick's (pronounced "Smith-icks"), the conversation came across the usual, sports, women (not girls, for those young punks), and of course, life after college. To set a preface on the gathered following, let me reference 'The Tudors' on ShowTime. So the drama is about the young Henry VIII and his impact on English history. It's filled with betrayal, politics, corruption, and lots of "hanky panky," especially with the King. Anyways, King Henry VIII's court is filled with people who is basically in favor with the him at the time which happens to be those who the King has fun with, who he trusts, and in secret, those who are basically trying to ride the coattails of the King. Course, fickle as the King is, his court can change at any moment and does many times during the series.
So, gathered at the Irish watering whole, our discussion was set on life after college because that's the stage that we were at in our lives. We discussed many a thing, but the controversial topic was routed in what I discussed a couple of posts ago about changing careers (reference: Sometimes Real Life is Real Enough...). Well, that post was based purely on the decision to change careers and a little into the psychology that goes into it. What we discussed is the "2nd coming" of influence in other aspects of changing careers (more specifically getting involved with clubs, societies, etc.) Not trying to be confusing, but trying to be "dead to real," we basically discussed the "King's" reasoning behind his edict of changing a certain society of influence.
If the above doesn't make sense, please hang with me and continue this journey into my mind and ultimately, my opinion on the matter. The "King" proclaimed he wants to make a change for the better; to revise some aspects to strengthen the foundation of this influential society.
Bold, very so.
However, like many societies that have come before and have fallen, the fact that remains is that people are disapproving of change and will not tend to welcome any change because it's not familiar to them. Resistance is common in situations like this, but, if the "King" believes in it, he will push his hardest and probably things will change (but the cavit in it is this: it will take some time before the changes are adopted and finally carried out). Let me pause here and remind everyone this is my opinion, nothing more.
Moving along, with that fact stated, I have some opinions I want to voice that will probably p*ss some people off. Here it goes:
1. Everyone has been part of something, may it be a club, sports team, league, etc., and have been blessed to have won a trophy, or done something great to be recognized and remembered. Well, that's awesome, but you take the same team or club and try to repeat what you've done that year before and most likely than not, it won't happen again. There are exceptions to the rule, so those are taken into consideration. My point is, well... what is my point? I guess I'm really trying to get at this: trying to make something like something else is trouble. We would like to think that a step family is like a real family (where real = you know, 1st family, I suppose; not a step family), but why do you call them a step mom or step brother then? Perhaps the ideals are something you want to reproduce; the love for each other, confidently trusting one another, etc. But, trying to make it the same experience as the 1st, is definitely out of reach. And, disappointments will ensue.
2. Being grown up is not as much fun as growing up: The Ataris said it best. Being a grown up is definitely not as fun as being precocious and naive, but there's a time to grow up, even if you don't want to. Who says the college grad is ready for the real world? What makes their 4 years in college an indicator that they will fair well out of school? Majority of the time, those people are still learning and trying to figure sh*t out. That's why this blog was born. I admit that I am not the know-it-all. I do not have all the answers. I'm proud of that fact. However, I am not a kid. That I am proud of, too. I have enough wisdom to live my life to the best of my ability. Pushing towards the future is the goal, right? Not taking 2 steps back. Granted, those "old farts" going back to school for their MBA or what not is nothing to be crucified for. But, my point hovers over the question of 'are you going back to school to change careers (add more cash into your paycheck, etc.) or are you afraid to move forward and ultimately grow up?' It's a bad question, yes, I admit. And it's a question I would never want to ask any of my mates from college or from my list of friends, but I thought it and so, it came out here. Think about it.
3. If you are a regular reader, then you probably have picked up on religious references littered through my posts. It may not be as apparent as night and day, but, I do have a spiritual side. I grew up Catholic and am Catholic (however, may not practice it much). My mindset is set on the idea that I find God in all things. Simple as that. I don't want to dive deeper into this topic, but it helps set up my next point. Being a part of something is great, especially faith because, personally, I know my soul is taken care of in the afterlife. In addition, believing in a higher power is something that helps me get through the tough times and it makes sense to me. Perhaps it may not make sense to you, but that's you're thing.
Anyways, this type of belonging can be found in many things: adult sports league, bingo nights, drinking at the pubs, Saturday night line dancing, etc. Naturally, for those out of college, you would gravitate towards a sense of belonging not found in college, right? Taking the next step in the journey towards our demise (sorry for being emo here). I feel that I'm beating a dead horse, but I reiterate my point in #2: why take 2 steps back when you can walk forward? Unless an open moderator/advisory position beckons, why take a role often occupied by undergrads? What more do you have to learn? Isn't those positions suppose to assist us in how the real world and/or corporate world is run? Those examples should help us prepare for life after college. Right? I'll leave it at that.
Looking back at this post, I really don't want to continue because for one, I don't want to be seen as whining and two, I don't want to be starting sh*t with anyone. But, I trudge forward because I'm not ready to hop off my soapbox on this topic.
4. Self improvement is a trait I definitely believe in. I recommend always learning even after school is over. Pick up a book and expand your mind. Travel and soak in the culture of other countries and races. Not to call out 'hypocrite,' but what's the number one rule of trying to make a difference in the world? Take it to the personal level first. If you want to make a difference with recycling in your city, what do you do? You personally carry out recycling in your home, etc. From there, you can move forward into influencing the people around you and ultimately, your city, right? So, trying to change "the world" before you change yourself feels very hypocritical. I can go on and on about this, but I want to end at that statement.
5. Generalizations. I do it, you do it, everyone does it. We are territorial by nature. We will represent our ethnicities. We will represent where we live. We will represent what school we went to, etc. But to generalize about an entire population is b*llsh*t. I'm sorry, but it is. I will never say (for example) everyone who is a Nascar fan are hicks and cowboys. I will never associate a certain race with a certain sport, etc. I'm trying to be as politically correct as I can without stepping on anyone's toes because I don't want to deal with the repercussions. Please give me some leniency because I don't want to go there. But to say, we ALL are hard workers or we ALL support Barrack Obama is ridiculous. Who gave you the authority to speak for me or others? Everyone is entitled to an opinion. But, to take that right away and proclaim one opinion for the masses, that's dangerous. I am fired up about this because emotions are what gets people in trouble in situations like this. Fights start based on emotion and everything falls apart. You may say it's pride in whatever, but it really is emotion based on your own opinion.
6. Lastly, I want to discuss a person's worth. I want to believe that I am a trusting person. I believe in people and I hope they believe in me. I'll vouch for someone if the opportunity arises. But, let's see if we can agree on something first. A high school experience is different than a college experience, correct? In high school, classes are right after each other from a certain time in the morning until a certain time in the afternoon. College, on the other hand, is more flexible where you choose to have classes in the morning or in the afternoon, etc. Well, a person's worth is gained by knowing a person. And a way to know a person is to spend time with them and experience things with them, right? So, to vouch for someone based on your experience might not be the same feeling as another's experience. Does that make sense? I may have been a quiet, nerd in high school with some friends, but in college, came out of my shell and led a sports team to a trophy. Those in high school will have a different opinion of me than those on my college team, right? But, they are referring to the same person.
To finish up #6, I have to say that I try to live my life with worth. I am proud to be part of groups and societies and try to represent them well. Just like those sports athletes who are basically extensions of the club and franchises. When they make the news because of inappropriate behavior, you view the club in a negative way. It's just how it is. And again, generalizations resurface. When 2 groups are represented and a person makes a comment about one of the groups (citing them in a generalization), an emotional response is created. I'm not going to make a witty comment of treating each other with respect and whatever, I'm just trying to point out what's happening here. As a spectator, my opinion is found in this post. Emotionally, I want to side with one group, but what's the point? Grudges are formed and that's just not fun.
I want to end this post on a positive note, if I can muster it. I'm not trying to blame anyone or "taddle-tail." All I want to do is embody why I started this blog: try to figure out life. The best way for me to analyze life is through the events that I deal with. It's a window into what I go through and of course, my opinion on it. So, please take it as a grain of salt. If you don't agree with my opinions, that's all right. If you can take some wisdom from my discussions and apply it your own life, then I'll take responsibility for that. Are we at an agreement?
Yes, I am finished. Thanks to those who read the entire way. If you want to comment, I welcome any feedback.
On a happier note, I will post about Day 5 of the Euro 2008 tournament very soon. And a little teaser, Portugal took 3 points with 3 goals against the Czech Republic! I'm happy!